You’re just going to get called a sexpat anyway.

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Certain stereotypes do exist in Asia about Western men and their motivations for being there. The term ‘sexpat’ may be commonly thrown around, along with allegations that they suffer from ‘yellow fever’ or worse yet, have a rather criminal preference for younger, looking Asian women that may not have reached the age of consent, or at least solely look too young despite being of legal age.

They will also be accused of exploiting third world poverty to partake in sexual activity; even though it could be argued that women anywhere in the world are naturally attracted to wealth. As horrible as this reality is, there have always been good reasons for it to be the case. Maybe workplace equality has lessened its importance as a factor in good, sturdy relationships, but a woman doesn’t even have to be a classical ‘gold-digger,’ she may merely not want to suffer financial stress.

Western women are undoubtedly the worst offenders for slinging such dirt relating to those stereotypes, but there are masses of soyboy looking white-knights that seem to be all too ready to defend such women. Some seem all too happy to declare that to sleep with Asian women is exploitative, sleazy behaviour in front of their pale-skinned fempat friends, who will most likely always be nothing but their platonic friends; unless she starts getting exceptionally desperate.

This is contradictory to human nature. 99% of people living in Asia can be described as ‘Asian,’ therefore if you are single and living in that region, dating Asian people should be considered not unusual but inevitable; unless you are one of those narrow minded people that exclusively socialises with people from their own background.

Yet narrow minded and racist some people are. They may choose to behave like this yet still consider themselves to be politically liberal, world travellers that are cultured, educated people. Yet, the other night when I happened to be out on a date with a very nice lady from Korea, she overheard people sniggering and making comments about us. Apparently, one blonde Western woman seemed to feel a need to make jokes about the lady’s spoken English. I’d both suspect and actually that they mainly just laughing at me, as I’m white, male, conservatively minded and dressed and therefore tick a few of the ‘sexpat’ boxes.

Regardless of the fact that my date was in her early 30’s, from a city that is much wealthier than my own, had spent 4 years studying in Japan and then working as a professional translator; they seemed to object to us spending time with each other. I care not for their objections as such people are completely worthless in my eyes; my date thought otherwise and seemed to be willing to actually start a very real physical altercation with the woman despite being much shorter than her. She was quite a feisty one indeed.

Thankfully, it did not completely ruin a nice evening. Explaining my choices to personally exercise self-restraint and tell her to do the same led to a nice romantic walk and a chat; during which she eventually understood the logic of my ways and rather bizarrely, seemed quite impressed by that. Maybe, if I’d lost my temper and glassed that racist Westerner, the evening would have come to a premature end.

No matter how I react to such incidents; in Vietnam there’s always going to be some Western woman in her late 20’s or early 30’s, who rode the cock carousel for too long, went out here to ‘find herself’ (rather than improve herself) and is constantly on the look out for some overly sensitive beta male types to shack up with, now that all her higher quality friends back home had probably already got married soon after graduation. Such is the circle of life.

Thankfully, for them Vietnam has enough of those unfortunate poor soyboy bastards to go round, but even they are probably going to get chances to date superior quality local women and realise what awful pigs some of these Western women are. What’s more, these ‘ugly’ Western women often still have decent bodies, but if they’d show a better attitude towards people and even life in general, they’d be a hell of a lot more attractive.

What should you do to prevent this from happening to you in the future? Nothing. They’re still just going to call you a ‘sexpat’ anyway. Just date whoever the hell you want and be yourself. Hell, even just date yourself if you feel like it; if it wasn’t for having a whole planet full of women to choose from, I probably would.